Folks, this is news. It is big news that one of the biggest basketball stars of all time is dead. What he did or didn't do in his life should not prevent us from having a discussion about how big a loss this is to the game of basketball, to his family, and to fans of the league. You should remind yourself that admiring athletes for their talent and accomplishments doesn't mean you admire the person as a role model.
I grew up with Kobe, Jordan, and Shaq. I'm the white kid on the court in Brooklyn who would scream Kobe every time I made a shot (rarely). So, yea this stings. If you want to take that from me by reminding me of the rape accusations, do it later. You don't remind people at a funeral how the person who they're all mourning was flawed. If you do, I recommend posting on the "amitheasshole" reddit.