OnWisc said:
IF it isn't, then the stern rebuke or the non-violent discipline is the way to go, and that may well be the case for a lot of people. But I remembered the rare occasions on which I was spanked and, more due to the rarity than any actual physical implications, it got the point across.
So, maybe there's an opportunity here for at least some common ground.
Let me start with a premise that I hope we can all agree on. Hitting a child for absolutely no reason at all should be avoided. Just doing it to do it, with no attempted purpose other than to hit a child is something that shouldn't happen and shouldn't be defended or encouraged.
Ok. I would think it follows from that premise that if it could be shown, in a particular situation, that hitting a child will not have the effect the parent desires, then in that case too there is no reason to hit the child and it shouldn't happen.
Children every day (probably every minute) in the U.S. get hit for making mistakes. That is, for spilling milk, or breaking something. Put to the side the cases where the child was doing something naughty that led to the mistake -- like jumping on the bed or some other activity that he or she has been told before not to do. Just a mistake for not paying attention or being momentarily careless. The justification for spanking or other corporal punishment in this case is usually the same -- this will teach them to be more careful.
There is, however, a mountain of science that you simply cannot teach a person to be more careful in the case of mistakes or errors -- whether by discipline or reward. And the science comes from those who have the greatest incentive to try to avoid mistakes of this nature -- NASA, surgeons, the military. All you can do is improve your systems. You can teach a person not to do a particular thing that leads to more accidents -- don't put your glass on the edge of the table -- but you can't teach a person "be careful around your milk glass." Children get hit every day for the second kind of mistake. It is, literally, for no reason. Or perhaps more accurately, it is simply because the child did something inconvenient for the parent.
So, while there's a macro debate on whether corporal punishment overall is effective or counterproductive, as I said, I'd hope maybe there is some common ground even for those who adhere to it on the micro level. That is, that they have the burden of proof to justify its use on each and every occasion -- because otherwise they are simply hitting a child for no reason -- and to understand that it is frequently used in cases where that burden cannot be carried (whether it leaves welts or not).