Myt1 said:
I'm glad we can have a thread conflating beating the sit out of a kid with spanking him because both are always wrong. You guys should do a breastfeeding one next.
exactly
JayMags71 said:
OK, so where is the line between "spanking" and "beating the shit out of a kid"? How many hits? One? Five?
Some people like to use paddles. What implements are acceptable? Spatulas? Ping-pong paddles?
If I can spank my kids, can I spank my wife? If not, why not?
I'm speaking as a matter of practicality here: isn't it just easier to say "don't hit people" than try to establish arbitrary lines?
What is so arbitrary about not leaving bruises? Reasonable minds can differ on the responsible use of physical discipline. For those that choose to discipline that way, responsible use of physical discipline does not leave marks. This is what is codified in the statutory definition of abuse in the Texas Family Code 261.001(1)(C):
"Abuse" includes the following acts or omissions by a person:
(C) physical injury that results in substantial harm to the child, or the genuine threat of substantial harm from physical injury to the child, including an injury that is at variance with the history or explanation given and excluding accident or reasonable discipline by a parent, guardian, or managing possessory conservator that does not expose the child to a substantial risk of harm.
Certain terms are clarified in the Texas Administrative Code.
40 TAC 700.501(13) "...reasonable discipline...that does not expose the child to a substantial risk of harm..." Correction of a child's behavior that does not result in or risk substantial harm from physical injury
40 TAC 700.501(17) Substantial harm. Real and significant physical injury to a child that includes, but is not limited to, bruises, cuts, welts, skull or other bone fractures, brain damage, subdural hematoma, internal injuries, burns, scalds, wounds poisoning, human bites, concussions, and dislocations and sprains
Judge Mental13 said:
High school health classes were teaching teenagers that striking a child with an object is wrong? I was in high school around that time and I definitely don't remember that lesson. And I very much disagree with your idea of a "modern consensus". Society is way too big to pin down like that. If you think Peterson represents a small minority of fathers in America who have hit their kids with an object I've got a bridge in Brooklyn for sale.
As for specialists, I haven't formally studied the topic but what I've heard and read arguments from both sides. Domestic corporal punishment is legal in most places, and it's effectiveness has been debated for hundreds of years, and in those hundreds of years millions of kids got hit with a belt when they fucked up and the debates continued and still continue today, so I'm not sure what consensus you're referring to.
Oh, and a lot of people have brought up Adrian Peterson's other son who was killed by his stepfather and said things like "Well, if he doesn't see NOW that hitting a child is wrong he never will!" that take is, in my opinion, insane. To put that guy in South Dakota who murdered a 2 year old in the same sentence as a father who hit his kid on the ass with a stick too hard is ridiculous.
yes
JayMags71 said:
I dunno. I (along with my siblings and most of my friends) was able to teach my kids not to run thru a parking lot without "whooping" them.
Your kids are are probably just stupider than most. No surprise there. Apples, trees, etc.
Your kids are probably just more assholish than most. No surprise there. Apples, trees, etc.