It’s too bad more posters critical of Kobe aren’t responding to GoDa’s post rather than making jokes. That’s the conversation starter that most are choosing to ignore.
Not a response to this post in particular, but the thread overall. Some miscellaneous thoughts:
- With criminal culpability, there is a spectrum. Even murder (involuntary, manslaughter, felony) recognizes this reality. Or, larceny... whether a felony or misdemeanor depends on dollar value, etc. To say someone is a “rapist” and that label is permanent and clear cut does not recognize reality.
- To state someone does not change is equally ridiculous. I am (gulp, 50) and think of do-overs I would like from my teens, 20s, heck, even last week!
- Kobe was a sports celebrity at a very young age. Others have done so, too, but probably not under the spotlight of a marquee franchise (e.g., Garnett - Minnesota, LeBron - Cleveland). Earlier this season, LeBron made some comments about Daryl Money’s post on social media re: China, and in doing so demonstrated less maturity than Kobe has during most of his career.
- I grew up in Boston, but went to grad school in SoCal and remained for career growth. About four years ago, my daughter’s club soccer team played Kobe’s oldest daughter’s team (my daughter was 12 at time). After the game, Kobe spoke with girls and took pictures with everyone on my daughter’s team. This went on for about 45 minutes, all with a smile and no media. It really was a special memory seeing how much the girls enjoyed “being with a celebrity” and more importantly, how genuine Kobe was.
- Kobe lived in Newport Beach, while virtually all NBA players are much closer to “the scene.” Lonzo Ball, for example, immediately bought a condo in the Four Seasons residences right next to Staples Center. From a very young age, Kobe seemed thoughtful of the environment that would be most conducive to family life.
- For what happened in Colorado, perhaps there was some karma, in him having four girls. As a girl dad myself, I really think it improves your perspective on all sorts of things. Frankly, since I grew up without a dad in my home, I believe being a girl dad helped me immensely. I’d like to think the same happened with Kobe.
- I have no idea what happened with that girl in Colorado, or what has happened since. But since a day does not pass without some incredible story of forgiveness (e.g., a parent forgiving the drunk driver that killed a child), perhaps we should not be resolute in speaking on her behalf.
- Being in SoCal, there are countless stories coming out about his generosity - not just financial - toward the community. On the day he died, he was spotted in his local Catholic Church, alone, at 6am. That was clearly not a media ploy. It’s who he was.
I understand that some coverage (most of it) seems overboard. I think the spectacular nature of the death fuels that, on top of celebrity. But having reflected on this for a week or so, I think he was a very special person. Like all of us, he had his flaws, and made mistakes (which I believe he truly regrets - as I do many of mine). While we should remember the full picture, I think it a huge mistake to be dismissive of what he contributed by framing everything with a label (and we only have to look to Washington DC to see where that gets us).
Very infrequent poster, but wanted to share. I’ve enjoyed reading everyone’s opinions here -