First: The NFL provides the ball officials. We call them ball boys. They wear the maroon league NFL shirts. Ball gets thrown to them on the sideline, they hold it and keep it in their pouch. Again, to repeat, the NFL provides these guys. They are not team appointed, so for this to be really true, the ball official would have to be compromised by the Patriots. I find that impossible to believe.
I can't stress this enough and need to say it again: In order for this story to be true, the ball official would have had to been bribed, or tricked. I doubt either happened. Highly.